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Starting back my blog after a couple of years is like a task uphill for me, but yet i am writing this blog down here on the moment of happiness. That which is never gone and that which is hysterical for many. I seldom thought that off all the ideas phrasing inside my head, the moment i put it into action and get it done.. the phenomenon that grows up in me which senses a sight of pure satisfaction and a feeling of being the one who has it all. Days and Nights, i have sat down on my terrace, gazing at the stars trying to figure out answers for questions which i have mentioned in my earlier blogs but to my utter amazement, more than the answers i always looked at myself with a smile on my face and a thought in my eyes - "Is this Happiness ?"
So, i am writing down what I have experienced out of my life till date, Who knows ? You might be happy as well.
'I'll be happy when I... ' , does it sound like you?
The Cambridge dictionary defines happy as: feeling, showing or causing
pleasure or satisfaction. So many times we wait for something or someone
to make us happy. We believe we'll be happy when we get the promotion,
meet that special person, buy the house, and maybe win the lottery.
Happiness is a decision. Make that decision every day. Irrespective of
what life throws your way, you can choose your state. You and not your
situations should determine whether you stay happy or not. Don't get me
wrong, I'm not saying you won't have bad days, neither am I saying you
shouldn't express your pain. Am saying irrespective of the pain and
anger, choose to be happy.
Acknowledge the situation (don't be in denial), express your pain (and
you should) whatever way you want to, but after it's said, don't let it
get the better of you. Don't let your disposition and attitude towards
life become one of despair or rejection. I'm asking you to be like a
thermostat which sets the temperature of a room. Whether it's hot or
cold, the thermostat stays at a set temperature. It acknowledges the
change in the environment; nonetheless it remains at the set
temperature. The thermometer on the other hand is different; it
fluctuates with different environmental conditions.
So the question is how? How do you stay happy when everything that could
possibly go wrong happens? The following are some steps that have
helped me stay happy in spite of:
Remember that regardless of what you are going through, someone else
will gladly switch places with you. I remember listening to a song when I
was younger in India where the singer complained of having Basmati for food. I thought to myself, oh my gosh!! I want to live in
your life; where it's a sad thing to have Basmati Rice for
food.
See the opportunity in the situation. If you've been diagnosed with a
terminal illness, see the opportunity life still presents by giving you
time to make the most of your relationship with your loved ones. See it
as a second chance to make the rest of your life great.
Decide that you are the boss of your life. Nobody and nothing
(especially not pain) will take you captive without your permission. If
you've acknowledged the situation and expressed your pain, then move on.
Refuse to be constantly harassed by the pain or upsetting feeling.
Refuse to be held captive by the pain or situation. Instead exercise
your freedom by choosing a positive state.
Find the lesson: There's always a lesson hidden inside every negative
situation. Finding the lesson enhances your life and makes you stronger.
Don't forget life is not just about the destination, it's also about
the process and who you become as a result. Finding the lesson puts the
situation in perspective and makes it more manageable.
Imagine what your life would look like if you are a thermometer. You
will be highly unpredictable and unreliable because one minute you are
happy, then the next you are grumpy or sad; fluctuating with the
different situations life throws your way. Imagine on the other hand
what your life will be like if you are a thermostat, where you take
control of negative experiences and decide that in spite of them you'll
be happy anyway.
In the words of Martha Washington, "I am still determined to be cheerful
and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from
experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends
upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances."
As you start your week, remember that happiness is a decision. And with
every negative experience you encounter, determine that you and not the
situation will decide your outcome.
Making use out of my words may be of no use. But, trust me making use of these very precious moments of your life is of very high use. Use it , Dont get used by it.
Keep Smiling. :)
-Prashanth Ram
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Interesting :)
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